Yegads
Stalking: parking your car across the street from someone’s house to watch them come and go.
Not stalking: parking at the grocery store to get your groceries
Stalking: breaking into someone’s house, stealing their personal letters, and photocopying them
Not stalking: reading your ex’s letter to the editor in the local community paper
Stalking: getting someone to hack into someone else’s email
Not stalking: reading an unlocked publically viewable website which comes up when searching on your own name (your being the reader), or indeed, any phrase typed into a search engine
Moral of the story? If you want something to be private, don’t publish it on the intarweb. *
For other areas:
Good etiquette: don’t read your ex’s webjournal without asking; alternatively, read and leave nice comments or send email inviting your ex for coffee (hi exes, you get points for goodness! Except D for not emailing me back the last time :))
neutral: read, but don’t say anything to anyone
bad etiquette: read your ex’s webjournal and leave snippy comments trying to perpetuate bad feelings from years ago
Good etiquette: post only what you want others to read
neutral: be human and post things without thinking it all through; when people read them, take measures to lock further thoughts -or- be brave and juicy and keep posting anyway. They’re only people
bad etiquette: go bugfuck that people dare read/be curious/etc. (Welcome to the curiosity of the human race.)
Good etiquette: stay out of these discussions entirely
neutral: clarify where it might be helpful
Just plain silly: this post!
Hope this clarification helps.
[* Of course most of us journal whores do this regardless. This is where the cunning use of initials or pseudonyms can cut down a bit on the searchability of one's journal. And remember boys and girls: you can always get Dooced! But you may get a book deal out of it. Well no, probably not: that's so... 1999.]
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It took you what, 98 pages? of seaching via a search engine to find WB’s journal. I don’t know about you, but I think that’s either a really obsessive vanity search or stalking. Not my words originally, but if the shoe fits …
Call it what you will. I’m sure you can justify anything you want, and if not, you can always rewrite history. I’m fairly certain, for example, that this comment will never make it into your journal.
Enjoy defending your ego. You are at the very least a rude, uncouth gatecrasher.
Um, no, I didn’t do a search for WB’s journal in any way. Sorry. I did read a few pages yesterday. I’ve been reading your journal since finding my name on it in -November-. Why it’s suddenly an issue is your thing. It certainly makes no real difference to me what you do with it.
I have a pretty open policy around here ’cause I don’t post much I’m ashamed of, and therefore don’t have to blame people for reading what I’ve deliberately published. But yah, if you keep choosing to self righteously accuse me of things I haven’t done, hey, I might moderate you. You never know.
I’m the one who found the WB’s journal. blogsearch.google.com is a beautiful thing. Try going there and typing in “jade junshin terra.” POOF! The WB are result #4!
This is all really very silly. If you don’t want people to read your dirty laundry, don’t hang it outside!