It’s so weird when one’s (former?) BFF/girlfriend comes out with how much she thinks you suck since becoming a parent.
Parsing that kind of thing is hard. There has been tension for a while – the glamorous single life vs. the unglamorous drudgery of parenting. Plus a pregnancy. But I didn’t realize it went that deep.
There’s probably some truth that there’s been minor suckage, but you know – I kind of thought I was worth it. Also, with some friends I’ve been glacial about responding to things so if they came out with it I’d get it. But with this friend it’s like instant messenger every day. Except apparently on her side, half those days sucked.
Why is it people always hit you with this after you’ve spent 6 weeks nauseated and one with a thrown back – and after a kid’s birthday party for 20 kids + parents?
(The party went off fine.)
I’m definitely joining the wine/whine night with my neighbourhood posse this Fri. I think I’ll host.
I didn’t say anything I hadn’t said before, in various ways, at various times. And it’s not like I planned it specifically to happen right when you had a birthday party/pulled back/nauseated stomach.
It has always gone that deep. You made choices that didn’t include me in some fairly major ways and I resented it. But given that what I want is never going to happen, and that really I gave up on it years ago, then it doesn’t make sense for me to continue resenting your choices. So now it’s time to suck it up and be the supportive friend I should have been all along. It’s cognitive dissonance on this end and I’m working on it.
I thought the past couple of days had gone more easily for you since I’d been working on it. Please let me know if I’m not doing it right, because I am trying.
The single life is not especially glamorous, btw. It’s pretty fucking lonely a lot of the time.
Glad to hear the party went well, and wine night.